Military Brat Mindset

It took a long time for me to connect with old friends on the internet. First, I was dubious of the internet, afraid of getting sucked into something and paying for membership that ended up being useless. Yep, I was afraid to join Classmates.com.  Second, I'm a military brat. That means I've lost more people than the average kid just by growing up in a military family. By the time I was a freshman in college, we'd moved across the country ten times. This is in many ways a good life, but it wasn't great for making lifelong friends. At least not before the internet. When you move to a new town, you know before you even unpack that you're going to be leaving. You've been doing this before you can remember.  So maybe in some way you don't even understand, you hold a bit of yourself back.  It's easy for me to let go of people. I had to. It was just the way it was. Oh, of course, as I grew up, there were the usual halfhearted attempts at letter writing - long distance calls were strictly out of the question for a kid in my family. Friends would write, but then drift off into their lives without you and you did the same. Maybe one or two throughout the years stuck. In my case it was one. All the rest were lost. 

Then the internet comes along and maybe there's a chance that you could find some of your old friends.  You're curious and wonder about some of your old friends, but there are all these warnings about paying for things using a credit card over the internet. And then there's your military brat head trash. It goes like this. "I was only there for two years. Who's going to remember me?" So I lurked on Classmates.com.  After doing that for about a year, I finally filled in the information they allowed you to post without actually becoming a member. Nothing happened. I felt justified in all my doubts about this ever working. 

Then out of the blue about a year later, my friend Faith from the second high school I went to sent me a note through Classmates. I was astounded and yes, excited. Someone remembered me. We quickly exchanged email addresses.  I soon had a paid membership in Classmates.com http://www.classmates.com/registration/registration.jsp?isEmpty=true&communityId=0&destinationUrl=&dsource=pub|12231|styles|null|11960|1

Faster than I could have ever predicted, I was connecting with a few people from Rich Township Central Campus in Olympia Fields, Illinois. I think my friend Sabine then set up a Yahoo Group for our class especially to avoid the barrier to people connecting through Classmates and having to pay.  I found out that there is a reason you became friends with people even if you lost touch with them. After nearly 40 years of not being in touch with one another, it turned out that my friends and I watched and loved the same television shows and liked some of the same recording artists. Shows and musicians who weren't even around when we were first friends back in the sixties. The core of our friendship was still there.  It was really fun to get little snippets of what people had been up to since those days and what they were doing now. 

And then along comes Facebook and even more connections turn up with hopefully even more to come. While I'm a little wary of the internet, I've come to love the fun of Facebook. Although I don't like it's conformity of format (I still like the wide open way you could make your page your own in MySpace), it's a great way to keep in touch and find people.  I think with the internet and a little social media presence, younger military brats will never have to lose touch with their friends. What an exciting time to be living!

Plus with the Military Brat Registry on the web, older brats have another huge resource for connecting with the lost pieces of their past. 

Photo Book

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The new way to make a photo album: photo books by Shutterfly.

This is a photo book created by my friend Sabine of the trip a bunch of us took to Cleveland earlier this summer.

Take Back Your Time

Did you read that last sentence?  The United States remains the ONLY industrial country without a law guaranteeing paid vacation.  That means Japan has one, and we know how strong the work ethic is in that country. After spending years not being able to take a vacation, I know how bad it is for a person's health. There are also studies that show that taking a vacation improves productivity when you get back on the job. 
This quote below is from    Happy Go Legal

"Who doesn’t want time of respite, period of suspended activity, time spent away from home in travel or recreation?  And all this being granted to you as an employee?  I’m in!

Not everyone seems to agree, since it turns out a lot of people do not take all of their vacation time.  A recent study by Expedia found that approximately 226 million vacation days went unused by American employees in 2011.  Our counterparts in Germany, France, Brazil, and Denmark are given 30 days a year, and are taking all 30 days.  What gives with Americans?  Lack of funds for travel, poor planning, having too much to do at work, and a culture of feeling like bosses don’t support the taking of vacation are cited as reasons for not taking advantage of all paid vacation time." 

What gets me is that those unused vacation days are unused by people whose employers actually paid them vacation.  And these people are probably getting no where near 30 days leave time like they do in Europe.  So why wouldn't the U.S. government at least mandate a one week's paid vacation for full time employees. That's a fourth of what many Europeans get. A week is not going to turn us into a nation of slackers. And in the long run it would save employers costs in time lost and would increase productivity. But most employers can only look at the short term effects of what it does to their bottom line and if you do get a week's paid vacation, they really think they are being overly generous to the point of babying their employees. 

This makes for a population of people whose self worth comes from how busy they are and I have to say that some of them add in work responsibility over and above what their job description is, just to keep this illusion of worth. I say bullshit. Should you destroy your physical and mental health for a paycheck?  I say no, but I was right there with everyone else, working two jobs, trying to make ends meet and literally screwing my health up royally. Yep, I was a paycheck whore, a wage slave. And I worked for some truly despicable people. But doesn't that make a government who allows that kind of treatment of employees just as despicable as the employers who take full advantage of the law which in my state of Idaho grants very few government mandated employee benefits as law.  Most of the extra hours and duties people add on is added on because of fear. Fear that they will lose their life sucking job.  I urge all you fellow whores and wage slaves to join the movement. Visit Take Back Your Time and join the movement toward healthier and happier lives. 

 I just needed to get on the soap box about this, because I was thinking how very few vacations I've taken over my lifetime. It makes me sick and I wouldn't want that for anyone else. 

Intro

Me, at my first burn.

This blog is dedicated to travelers, with special attention to the older traveler. I have a bad knee, actually two bad knees. One is just worse than the other. For a long time I didn't travel. I live in Idaho which has no law requiring employers to give a worker any paid leave time or even lunch breaks during the day. I worked with no breaks or leave time for nearly three years. Before that I worked on commission only basis which means if you're not working you're not making money.  So basically I haven't gone anywhere since 1997.  In 2010 I finally got a job with paid leave time. I scheduled my first week off in 2011.  I took my first flight since 911 in 2011 and I haven't looked back. Welcome to geezer travels!!!